No matter whether you work in the mortgage industry or a teacher, women across the US balance professional and personal lives. We share advice for working women today.
Attention working mothers: it is time to ease off the guilt about leaving your children at home with a sitter, at a daycare or in school while you spend your day providing for your family. There are high expectations of mothers today, and it is not hard to feel like a “bad mom.” However, working women today are making strides in moving up the corporate ladder as well as eliminating feelings of guilt by enjoying their time at work and feeling empowered.
One Freedom staffer says, “Being out of the house, working, earning, interacting with people outside of my family makes me a more well-rounded person and in turn a better mother. Working also means that weekends and time off are absolutely cherished.” This Freedom mom also notes that a part of being a mother means wanting to give your children everything they need to have a wonderful life, opportunities, clothes, lessons, etc. For her to give them this, her salary is required.
Mom Guilt: Celebs are Just Like Us!
Take Victoria Beckham, Melissa McCarthy and Sandra Bullock as examples. Not only are they considered big stars, but they are also working mothers that juggle raising young children and a demanding work schedule. Yes, they are very wealthy and have help, but that does not erase the internal struggle they feel balancing their careers and families.
In a recent interview with Vogue China, Victoria Beckham said about working motherhood, “It’s a huge juggling act, when you are a working mother and looking after your family. Millions and millions of women around the world are doing this every day, but it’s not easy, and yes, you feel guilty every time you walk out of the door to go to work.”
In a recent joint interview with Parade Magazine, Melissa McCarthy and Sandra Bullock both spoke about their guilt over working and worries about being bad moms…then they observe that their worlds actually revolve around their children.
All three celebrity moms have reiterated the same point; everyone experiences and feels some version of working guilt. Father’s feel this as well, but the caregiver role is often place on the mother. Both moms and dads can lessen the guilt and ease the qualms.
Here are 5 tips to Work as a Mom – “Guilt-free”:
- There is no one “right way” when it comes to raising children. What works for some families may not work for others. The key is finding a way that works best for you and your children alone.
- When you spend time with your children, be present. Make sure to leave work at work and devote the time spent at home with your children to actually being with them. Turn off your cell phone and shut down the laptop and devote 100% of your attention to your children.
- Don’t compare yourself to others!
- Stay positive and remember that you are working to provide for your children. Acknowledge the positive things you are doing and don’t sweat the small stuff.
- A little guilt here and there is a good thing. Don’t shy away from the guilt, embrace it since it means you care about your children and you will cherish the times spent together even more.
Readers, what advice do you have for working Moms?